When I first started private violin lessons I actually had a bad experience. I didn’t start loving it until I joined my school orchestra! In the beginning I was sitting in the back kind of bored because I already knew how to play and everyone else was fresh beginners. Then once they caught up to me it was fun to hear how the different parts worked together and what made it better was I was with all my closest friends. I think once you join an orchestra, you never again want to go back to playing just by yourself. There’s something truly magical being part of something bigger than just your instrument!
As for performing, my parents actually tricked me into going to my first recital. It was very small with only people from my violin studio there, so somehow they convinced little five year old me that it was just a group lesson that the parents got to listen to. Afterwards when I figured out it was a performance it wasn’t as bad or scary as I thought it would be. I think it’s important to keep in mind that we sometimes talk ourselves into thinking we are more nervous than we actually are. On the flip side, it is also possible to talk ourselves into realizing that performing isn’t too scary. Just play your heart out, remember you are part of a team who has your back, and if you make any mistakes the audience most likely will never notice!